Dr. Phil

By Joel Comm November 26, 2004 58 Comments   

Love him or hate him, he is one of the most influential self-help therapists on the air waves today. Actually, calling him “self-help” is probably not a good description. But describing Dr. Phil McGraw is very difficult, given his success in helping people turn their lives around. Today Family First looks at a portion of what he does, and how well he does it.


First there is his website, called DrPhil.com. Here you can get the latest information on his television shows, books, radio programs, and other media outlets. But you can also get advice here, on everything from weight loss to depression, from family matters to surviving at work. Dr. Phil uses a no nonsense approach to helping a person look within theirselves and using what they have inside to make their lives better. Telling people to get real may not be politically correct, but it does produce results.
His latest book, “Family First”, provides a proven action plan to help parents
determine the strengths and weaknesses of their parenting style. His 7 Tools for Purposeful Parenting cover the most important elements for any parent: parenting for success — for the purpose of raising cooperative, caring, and competent children. It is quite intersting, as all of his books are, and one gets the feeling that they are having a conversation with Dr. Phil, and he is hearing what they say. He tells us that parents have to make changes now, not later, how to instill values in them that will make them successful adults, things like integrity, honesty, and respect for others feelings and opinions.
Dr. Phil has many ways to help us to help ourselves. A visit here today will show you just a few of them.

http://www.drphil.com/family_first/

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58 Comments to “Dr. Phil”
  1. Dr. Phil. I have three children two of them care nothing about me at all one does when it's convenient . I will be sixty five soon I'm scared if I get sick I will be alone and most of all want to know what I can do to get my children back I don't want to die knowing they hate me . Can you help me get them back on my side
  2. shirley says:
    Dr.Phil I really need your help with my daughter is on drugs,she doesn't care would she hurts .she has been on drugs since she was 16 ,she is forty two now. she has got her daughter on drugs for almost four years now she had her, she told her dr. when she was twelve yrs.she had to have shoulder surgery that the dr.would not give darvocet that didn't help . so her mother had her ask to get hydrocodne she has been on that for four yrs.my daughter has curses her kid for years she don't give a who she hurts .she just cares a bother drugs .she has got lynn on so many drugs that she doesn't care about her.She has had lynn lock up. She has had she is only 17 Dr. phil if you want help she is going to spend the rest of her. her mother that she does a damn, she is crazy she hangs around with drugs dealers she don't she doesn't care about her kids she just wants the drugs .We give her a house to live in .she has stuck with a bill that i can't, pay a telephone that she ran up over 900 dollars . She is really mess up my life trying to take care of her kids. i want let them down i pray you can help me get her off the drugs .She is killing me.. shirley , 111 kelso dr.Shelby,N.C. 28152
  3. luke thompson says:
    Dr. phil i am 12 years old I have two little sisters and a little brother.my dad has a horrible pill addiction. It is painful for me my mom and and my sibblings to see him suffer from his addiction. As he stumbles through the house i wonder whats going to happen in the future. Will he lose another job, will he pass out what will happen? If he does'nt get help soon he will DIE! please help me and my family. sincerely, Luke Thompson.
  4. robert says:
    i was injured at work by another employee a year ago. the injury damaged my dominate right arm. i make a living as a chef/cook but now im unable to have full use of my arm. this injury happened may 2008 at work. workmans comp in florida state made me wait months til i was able to see a doctor hence they did a surgery on my elbow and hand to release my arm because it got stuck in place while waiting for to see a doctor. now i am told by the workmans comp doc and therapist that there is nothing they can do. please if anyone could give me some advise on this matter it would be appreciated. ive been living in florida for almost 5 years. i graduated from the Culinary Institute of America back in 1997. i am a veteran of the USAF, i served for 4 years, but i still served my country, and i feel i just got crapped on by florida state and the insurance company.
  5. karen says:
    why does daughters ex-boyfriend get crazy if he finds letters,from her guy friend or if he calls her. he has a girlfriend, she kicks him out so he comes back to my daughter they have a son whose life he was never involved in then his girlfriend takes him back after 3 days. lots of verbal abuse.
  6. beth worley says:
    i really need to contact dr phil i have a seriouse situation to address and need his help. I am a 21 year old woman who had a rough life. i am a mother of 2.that is what i am writeing for.my oldest son is 5 years old.When i was 16 years old he was wrongfully taken from me and i need people to hear this story because it happens everyday people are just afraid to tell about it well i want people to hear about it. if i could get his email i would really apriciate it. sincerally broken mother
  7. marty says:
    My name is MARTHA and my family is considering on cancling christmas i need help because i will not have enough for my four children and their father died when three of them were really young they are going through a rough time right now now that they are getting older and they are starting to understand and after the tragic incident i remarried after a few years and had an other little one is very little she is 4 and her dad got tooken away by the immigration we try to call him as much as we can but we can't very often because we have very little money that is why we are asking for your help with this christmas so my kids can have a christmas this year thank you for your help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  8. Sandra P says:
    I need help! I have stuff going on in my life that I seam to not beable to figuer out. I live in a small town in WI and I have a young boy that is living with his ill father and they live in a big city of WI and my son is a fried and mad that his dad is ill and that they live in this twon. I try to help with my time and to help his dad. we live 1 hour a way from each other. i do not make anuff money to move right now. I know that i need to be with my son. Please help me. If you write me back and then maybe i can tell you more. I don't know how to tell the hole story in email when there is so much to tell. Sandra P
  9. Arelhi says:
    Dr.Phil, I feel very trapped in all that I am going through it tis very difficult for me to focus and do the right things. My boyfriend for 5 years and also the father of my two children is ready to leave. He fells that I am not capable of helping him get his big american dream come to a reality, he says I am holding him back. My situation is very difficult I am 20 years old and I am a non legal resident here in the U.S. But I have been here since I was 1 I was raised here and this is what I know. He is frustruated because I cannot get a good job or help him get a home. It is very difficult because he is leaving me for his ex girlfriend he says it's because she has a legal status and she could help hin pursue what he wants for the children. I am very depressed and I know deep inside I am capable of many things but the only thing that is stopping me is my legal status. I am very scared to loose my family over somehting I have no control of because of this laws. You have given advice to many people and helped them maybe you could help me PLEASE!!!! Thank You
  10. Kristy V says:
    Can someone please tell me how to write Dr.Phil. I would like my family to be on the show. We all need help and I think he may be interested in this. Please dont take me lightly... everyone does and the reason I will be writing him is a VERY SERIOUS matter. I've been looking for help all around the internet and calling places for years, but everyone always wants too much money. Finally after watching the Dr. Phil show everyday I said to myself... this man could help us. He knows a lot of people, does some charity work for those on the show, and helps guide people into the right direction. It would mean more to me than you'll ever understand if I can contact him in some way. My older brother, my mother, and myself are the ones with the major problems/health issues/addictions. My younger brother and father just need some guidance. We're a christian family and do our best to pray and believe in our prayers... but on some level we still need to seek help outside of our faith. Thank You so much for taking your time to read this. It means a great deal to me. Kristy (age 21) From Baltimore MD
  11. jennifer knott says:
    Hi Dr Phil, My name is Jennifer, I live in Toronto Canada, I have an older sister who is such a wonderfull person she really is and I just love her so much, the problem is, is that she suffers from an eating disorder and most times is very depressed, she takes alot of medication for her depression but nothing seems to work she was married for about 5 years to her high school sweetheart, and then had a terrable divorse. She then remarried a short time after that and now they are separated, she at times talks about how she should end her life because she is a failure, I worry about her every day and night sometimes I cry because I can't live with out her. She sees a docter sbout all these problems but I really think he is just a pill pusher and she needs more to get her life back on track, It has come to the point that if I can't get ahold of her I worry she has gone and done something. Please if you see this help me with this situation I am lost right now I need her in my life and I need her to be happy like she once was. Thank-you Jennifer canada [email removed]
  12. paula Herring says:
    I am so very saddened that so many people would take television show contents as gospel. I have watched The Dr. Phil show far too many times and can not bare to watch it anymore. He is so rude to the guests who are there for help and guidance. I can not bare to watch him humiliate and degrade the children that come there for help. He is verbally abusive to them and treats them as if they don't matter and then sends them on their way. It's like watching a bad episode of Roseanne. Sadly a monster has been created and televised and let loose on the nation.
  13. Elizabeth Seekford says:
    Iwrote to you months agoe but never any reply,I was just asking help for my sister,she is unaware of what Im doing,She has a parelized arm, raised her son, now she weighs about 400 lbs has a hiena ulser and cant get help with either that or loosing weight, the doctors wont help her because of on or the other,she cant walk because her stomach hangs down to her kneesso she cant walk,now she is raising my brothers grandchildren who simply adoores her, if soming isntdone to help her she will die,can you help
  14. kyle gronewold says:
    where do you live and I wanted to no more about you
  15. Dena says:
    I have a friend that is bi-poler,and she has a daughter that is 10 years old,and I need to know if I should be concern about this obsessesion that she has with her 10 year old daughter, she sleeps with her,she takes showers with her,she tells everybody that her daughter is so beautiful she is,when kids fight with her she tells her that their just jealous of her. I hope you can give me some feedback. Thank You Dena
  16. Rhonda says:
    I am 51 and have suffered chronic pain and depression for a number of years. My doctors put me on numerous medications including some narcotic pain medications. The pain medications I am currently taking are Avinza ( a 24 hr. time realeased morphine) 75mg/h fentanyl pain patches a couple of different muscle relaxants and an anti-inflammatory. I was also taking 10mg lortabs, but stopped those on my own. I was on 180mg of avinza, but have cut back on that some on my own. A friend of mine talked to a nurse who told her she had never heard of anyone taking so much pain medication. I don't know that I can do this on my own. My doctor tells me that my ins. doesn't cover in patient rehab and I haven't had a car for 18 months so I can't get to any N.A. meetings. I'm feeling hopeless and so depressed that sometimes I wish my Heavenly Father would call me home. Can you help me? Oh I forgot to mention my childrens father who I've been divorced from since 1983 died in May from severe neurological damage due to long time illegal drug use. Now I don't drink or use illegal drugs, only what my doctor prescribes for pain, but I know they can be just as damaging. I have 4 daughters and 9 grandchildren with 1 on the way. They don't need to lose their Mom/Grandma too. I do hope to hear from you or your staff soon. Thank you Rhonda
  17. Rose Bayne says:
    Dr. Phil Please help this faimily. My granddaughter is a 16 year old girl who is breaking all the rules. Background for your info father was a stone drunk who for the last 4 years of his life did nothing but drink and lay in bed. He needed a hip replacement but was too afraid of gettin sober to gothru with the surgery. He ballooned to aprox. 500 lbs. My daugter who wanted a baby very badly and finally got one after years of trying I believe developed post partun depression and went to the couch and slept so this little girl raised herself Three years ago y daughter woke up and decided that she needed to move back to Missouri where her family is and try and make a home for her family although still suffering from some sort of problem will not clean house and won't make her daughter do it. In December of 2005 dad died daughter found him when she came home from school in bed dead. She had started in November with rage attacks and attacked her dad in the hallway of their home kicking him in the bad hip mom intervened and wrestled with the daughter and finally slapped her in the face and just held her she bit her mother in the brest breaking skin and fighting with her mother. Since then she has done everything to overpower her mother We have pictures of her that she took with a very unsavory group that her mother has told her not to associate with but like it is a thing to hurt her mother. She is smoking pot which there are pictures of a mixed race of bad kids who are in a special group at school she skipped school her mother would take her to school and talk to the principal about her skipping and get her back in school and then the girl would go out the back door and skip again. She then ran away and was gone for 6 days and caught by the police which is one of our problems we asked for help as to what to do with this child. We have taked her to physiatrist and a counsler also she is in grief counseling at school My daughter has tried everything. One night she awoke and her daughter was looking for a flashlight so my daughter got up and took a lamp into that bedroom and ended up finding a black man in the closet that the granddaughter had let in thru the window when my duaghter went to defend herself from this man my granddaughter attacked her and once again my daughter just tried to hold her and this time she bit my daughter in the stomach breaking the skin in 4 or 5 places. Ater she ran away my daughter put her in a very respected behavior clinic she was there for 3 days and released with a diagnois of mood disorder and referred to and outpatient intensive care unit at another hospital again 3 days and released it is just a matter of time before this child goes off the handle again and our whole family which consist of an Aunt and Uncle who love her alot 2 teenage girl cousins she loves grandma who would do anything for her and a mother who is greiving and about to break from the stress. Please Dr. Phil help this family before something happens .
  18. LINDA FISH says:
    Dr. Phil, I am the grandmother of a fine young man- now 25 who has had an exceptionally successful high school career- 2nd highest in class-state one-act-play, state track - and then a short time in college, where he ran into trouble. We are from a very small town in Texas, his grandfather and I have taught school here for 30 years.Maybe it was the change to a larger enviornment or who knows, the bottom line is - he has now been married and divorced and has a little daughter who he grieves over constantly. We don't know how to help him. His mother watches your show whenever possible, as do I, and we pray that you might help us and Winston. We fear that he is into drugs and alcohol, he seems to have no will to live and we are so afraid. I have no way of knowing if these letters ever reach you - and that you would even take notice of an ordinary letter from a 65 year old grandmother who is desparately seeking for help. I just know that this fine young man should have a chance to find help. Please contact me. We have tried, with our limited knowledge and resources to address the problem but we are afraid that it is not enough. God bless you and thank you for your help and advice to so many. Sincerely, Linda
  19. Cheri Twice Bitten says:
    I have been scammed by a man who played with my heart and took my money. I am looking for him to make him repay the $5K he took. I have a contract but cannot locate him... any suggestions???
  20. Agharid says:
    Hi Dr Phil,I'm a lebaneese woman who lives in kuwait with my family(my husband and my two daughters). first of all, happy 500 show and i wish you the best forever.I would like to tell you that I don't miss watching your intersting show because you prooved with your intelligence and wisdom that all families around the world have the same feelings and the same problems and we need always a lot of love , a lot of reason and a few sacrifices to resolve them.You make the countries that"they are called ennimies"unified.You make us,the arabic families,happy for the happiness of the american families and sad for the sadness of them. Thank you for all your advices.God bless you and your beloved wife and all your family for the smile who erases the tear of unfortunate people.
  21. Debbie says:
    I can't seem to find where to post problems and questions for Dr. Phil. SO...here it goes. I was a stay at home mom for a year, following my daughters scare with Cancer. She was 7 and they had found a tumor. THANK GOD, the tumor was NOT CANCER. I did however decide to quite my job and stay at home with her. I just got a job and I go back tomorrow. I have been up most of the night crying at the fact that I have to leave my daughter!! I KNOW THAT I NEED TO WORK AND BRING IN SOME INCOME! BUT, my daugher also had heart surgery at 3 days old. It just seems like it has been one thing after another. It makes a mother very protective when going through as many scares as we have! The thing is that I am not married to her father but we live together. ONE reason I decided to go back to work is that his will stipulates that in the event of his death, out home and property gets split between HIS other two children (WHO HAS NEVER LIVED WITH HIM) and our daughter. WHICH MEANS IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO HIM, MY DAUGHTER AND I LOOSE OUR HOME...UNLESS I BUY THE OTHER TWO OUT! IS THAT RIGHT????? HOW DO I GET OVER THIS HURT OF HAVING TO GO BACK TO WORK WHEN MY 8 YEAR OLD IS DEVISTATED!!!! OUR DAUGHTER IS A STRAIGHT "A" WONDERFUL LITTLE GIRL! WE HAVE SO MUCH TO BE THANKFUL FOR! WHY AM I SO TORN AND DEPRESSED ABOUT LEAVING HER?? IS THIS NORMAL?? SO CONFUSSED, PLEASE HELP
  22. Michelle Patterson says:
    Dear Dr.Phil I am a 29 yr old mother. My husband and I have our own company which is not doin well. we have a 3 bedroom trailer and we are about to lose it. We are so behind on our bills it isn't even funny. I am $400.00 behind on my car which is broke down. We can't afford to get it fixed. If you can help us it would be a blessing from God. Also if you could see about helping me make his dream come true about becoming a Country?Gospel singer that would be great. Thank you so very much and may God Bless You. Michelle Patterson Saltillo, Ms
  23. Sue says:
    Dear Dr Phil I need a sounding board...I am a 51 year old nurse with a big problem..I have geen BLACKBALLED a year and a half ago I fell in my workplace garage. I was transported via ampulance to my workplace with a back injury...this is where the trouble began....I have suffered back pain ever since...Workmans compensation picked up my case and paid me 60% of my pay but I had to pay 100% of my insurances. Comp provided me with just about every test and treatment. I had chiropractic care with no improvement, deep muscle message, myofacial release, physical therapy at 3 different locations, steroid injections, and medications galore. After a year of treatment, I continued to have significant back pain..At that time comp decided I could work 4 hours a day 3 nonconsecutive days a week but the hospital couldnt or wouldn't find me a job...then comp set to shutting off my payments...even with a lawyer (lousy lawyer I was badgered into signing a settlement of $20,000....hardly enough to pay for health insurance (which they shut off also) They are still not finished screwing me...the hospital will not or can not provide me with work and they will not terminate me. this means that I cannot collect my pension or get my earned time payment, or collect unemployment...If I retire, I still cannot get unemployment... I continue to have significant pain and am taking medications every 6 hours...I know I am unable to do direct patient care...I cannot believe I am in this position at my age... In the middle of all this, my younges sister developed ovarian cancer and passed away last week. Then my niece had a kidney transplant but now has developed lymphoma from the anti rejection medications....so you see Dr. phil I am pretty well spent emotionally...now I have to sell my home and try to find something cheap to live in before I run out of money...I just dont see how this is justice. thanks for listening Sue
  24. Laura says:
    Please can you help...my best friend's niece is being horribly abused by her so-called mother and sister. The niece ran to my best friend's house and called for help to the Police and Child Protection. They took her out of my friend's home and put her right back into the abuse. The niece held a knife to her own throat, threatened to kill herself, called my friend (her aunt) and pleaded for help. The niece's "mother" is abusive, as is her sister. Her "mother" has tried to make the doctors think the girl is INSANE and to have her committed, when, while she was at my friend's house, the girl was perfectly normal, but as soon as she was put back in the abuse,within 2 hours, she snapped and began acting crazy again. She is in severe danger, but the "mother" has the police and authorities snowed and deceived big time. What can we do?
  25. shirley says:
    i would love to know how to write to dr. phil can someone help me here i need his advice
  26. Abigail Diaz says:
    Hi Dr. Phil, I have a business problem occuring where I work. I want to write you a letter and would like your business address. Please do not E-Mail me. The computers at my work place do not receive E-mails for some reason. Thank You for your time. Abigail Diaz 92 Hawthorne Drive LaGrange, IL 60525
  27. clint cervenka says:
    d.r. phil i don't know if you will recive this or not. i feel like such a fool trying to get to you. or even if i'm writing to the right spot. i see how many people you help.an would like to be one of the one's you help. i'm not the type of person who aske's for anything but man i got myself into a mess an ashamed to tell anyone about it i'm at my witts end. an don't know where to go from here.i graduated h.s in 75. joined the army 10 day's after graduating. life was good for a few year's then i starting drinking only. i blew 2 marriages by 96. becuse of it. i have 2 children one from each mother. then i turned into a drunk dead beat father an i lost all contact with my children an there mother's.then my world fell apart i got hurt at work busted my back all up an was not able to work.so the doctor's did all they could do with me put a i.p.g. implant in me an let me go. now im on ssdi now my children are getting there support they deserve now. but now i have a bad drug &alchol problem i get my pill's from my doctor to control my back pain but the problem is i'm addicted to morphine an a whole bunch of other pill's. it getting so bad i shot myself in the chest a while back so i could get more pill's. how sorry is that. no one know's the truth until now i said it was a accident.i live in a town where there's no hospital i can go to. i tryed n.a.&alanon im not strong enough to do this alone. there is alot more to this than i can say right now. i want to tell you but i want to make sure i writing to the right place an you are the one to get this. i will do anything it take's to live again without any thing clouding my mind. i know i am worth saving an i will give back 100 percent to other's. i know you can't beleive a drug addict this is not one of those overnight thing's iv'e been wanting to do this for along time. if someone dropps out of one of your program's i will do anything to get off of this rollercoaster. i need to make-up for alot of stupid stuff i put people through i need to work&feel worth something again. i was a heavy equiptment opp. an a good welder when i was alive.so if you can do anything to make me feel alive again i will follow you to the front line's. i was a good soldier when i was called upon. thank-you for your time clint........
  28. Shelby says:
    Dr. Phil I am a 17 year old girl that lives in a small town in Colorado. Please help my family. I told my mom tonight that I was depressed and thought about suicide and I need help. We had a conversation and it all came down to this. She couldn't help me because she was emotional drained and suicidel and so is my littel sister. I fill so stuck becuase there is no way out. I am not sure that we can aford the medication or conseling we need exspecaly if my mom devorses my step dad. Can you recomend any thing? Please help!!!
  29. Sue Peaslee says:
    Dr. Phil, My family is in crisis! My88 year old father is about to get married to a 54 year old woman whom he has known for 5 mo.s He is about to turn his back on his 4 kids because we are insisting that he should have a prenupt. Please help us.
  30. CHARRYL COX says:
    DEAR DR. PHIL AND ROBIN, I KNOW YOU WILL RECOGNIZE THE CITY I RESIDE. LOVE IN DUNCAN, OKLAHOMA. I AM SURE THESE COMMENTS DON'T RELATE TO THIS (SITE) BUT I CAN NOT FIND A GENERAL EMAIL LOCATION. I AM COMPUTER ILLITERATE. WELL CLOSE TO IT. I HAVE TRIED TO WRITE YOU BEFORE AND AS I SAID CAN'T FIGURE OUT ON YOUR LARGE WEB SITE WHERE TO GO. MY DAUGHTER IS A MOTHER OF THREE. 8 YEARS, 4 YEARS AND 17 MONTHS. THEY LOST A SON THREE YEARS AGO TO SIDS. IT WAS A VERY HARD TIME OF COURSE AS MY MOM, THEIR GRANDMOTHER AND GREAT-GRAND MOTHER PASSED AWAY ABOUT A YEAR BEFORE. AND MY HUSBAND HAD PASSED AWAY TWO YEARS BEFORE MY MOM DID. GEE, I HOPE I CAN SAY I AM STRONG. MY QUESTION IS THIS. MY DAUGHTER AND HER FIANCEE HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO AFFORD A HEADSTONE FOR THEIR SON. I HAVE CALLED AROUND IN THE DUNCAN AREA AND HAVE FOUND NOONE THAT HELPS WITH THIS TYPE OF NEED. I THOUGHT WITH YOU HAVING FAMILY HERE, YOU MIGHT KNOW OF SOME RESOURCES THAT WERE AVAILABLE FOR THIS TYPE OF NEED. I WOULD LOVE TO GIVE THIS TO MY DAUGHTER FOR CHRISTMAS. OR AT LEAST HER KNOW I SEARCHED OUT A RESOURCE FOR ASSISTANCE. I DO HOPE TO RECEIVE A CALL OR NOTE. I AM SURE YOU GET THOUSANDS OF LETTERS. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP. CHARRYL COX 419 S. 27TH STREET, APT 608 DUNCAN, OK 7353[phone number removed]
  31. Maria M Restrepo says:
    Dr Phil:I need to know how can I write a very personal letter about my daughter VERONICA, she has a lot of problems, mix with addictions and sickness,Dr Phil if you do not help me Veronica can die,she is been trough sooooooo much,it is one crisis after another,she has had about 6 different treatments,AA mettings,hospitals,meidcations,she was living in the streats of Chicago and California,Alcohol, drugs, ,almost killed, she is ADD,diagnosed as depressed,multiple personalities,.At this point in life she has not gotten the help that she really needs, we are confussed,I whatched your program almost every day,I see many people are help by YOU,please respond to this email, for this is a matter of life and death, we need your HELP soon, God blessed you and your family, hope I can hear from you very soon.......English is my second language, hope you understand this
  32. Denise Legault says:
    Actually I am using my mom's computer to tell you about my grandmother. She is 60 years old, legally blind, and sits 2 feet from the tv everyday to watch Dr. Phil. When I asked her what she wanted for Christmas she said an autograph picture of Dr. Phil and Robin, and a weight challenge t-shirt. Could you tell me is this possible for me to get it for her if it doesn't cost too much because I am only 12 years old and do not have a job yet. But I just want her to be happy because you see my grandpa passed away recently and she is very sad, they had been happily married for 36 years. So I am trying to cheer her up a little. Thank you very much for reading my e-mail.
  33. Jannina Garde says:
    Dear Dr. Phil, I am 13, and I have an okay life. The only problem is my relationship with my dad. Him and I get along when it has nothing to do with my grades. My school updates student grades for parents to see on the internet. My dad always checks my grades every weekend. I have a few missing assignments which means i didn't do it, or i lost it. When that happens, i am afraid to get near my dad because i never know when he'll bring up the subject about my grades. In the past my grades have caused me to get slapped across the face which sometimes concluded in a bloody nose. It would always scare me thinking about school and my grades. It still happens now except for the hitting because my dad says it won't do me any good. My dad now says that the next missing assignment he sees on my grades, i will have to quit all the extra curricular activities i do, and i'll have to work at his office to get what i want, which is anything besides food, or the clothes i have now. He says i'll even have to pay for my orthodontist payments. I use to have a great relationship with my dad until he looked at my jr.high grades. It makes me sad hearing what he says to me after when he sees my grades. He says your lazy, you don't do anything, your acting like a ghetto, stop bull shitting me, and at the end he says, i wouldn't be saying this if i didn't love you. It makes me wish i was slapped instead of hearing what he had to say. Please help me and my dad get back to how we were. I loved the old him not the new him.
  34. nadine gioglio says:
    I would like for you to know that I watch your show as much as I can and I have learned a lot about myself and how to change myself and I want to thank you. I left an alcoholic/abuser of 11 years and I feel alive now. I had more of the emotional and verbal abuse but on New Years Day, he gave me a black eye. That was all it took. I know in my heart he really didn't mean to hurt me, but it happened and I couldn't let him get away with crossing the line no matter what. He was drunk and that was his excuse. He felt I should 'forget about it' but I* couldn't take the chance of him hitting me again. I had two surgeries this year and he was of no help. He (pardon my word) bitched because he had to take care of me instead of me caring for him. Even with a cast on he expected me to wait on him hand and foot. I had a hysterectomy in April and that'd when something snapped for me. I knew I had to get out. So I did. And I am getting better every day. I love myself and am enjoying my new life.v I now have a new boyfriend that saved me in every way a woman can be saved. I thought long and hard before getting involved with him because I wanted to make sure it wasn't a rebound thing and I found it wasn't. And every time we're together, it gets better every time. I talk to my ex-boyfriend quite a bit and I am not bothered by it. I am glad I am not there. I just wanted you to know that I listen to you and took your advice and I am greatful that you were there for me. You are a Godsend. Thank you very much for being there for me. Nadine
  35. Diana Ambeau says:
    Dear Dr.Phil I live New Orleans my son and wife and month baby are survial of hurricane Katrina they were at the convention center for a week .I had no idea where he was .Until someone text message me and said they saw him on tv hold his daughter in his hand calling for so one to help because my grandaughter had no milk to drink. He even tried to walk a cross to the West Bank of the city were I live but the police stop them with guns and told them that they couldn't come a cross to my home were it was dry .Could you find and your heart to help them find a place to live so they can have new begining an Houston. .For a mother to hear child cry on the phone It was heart breaking. . His name is Terance and Shanell DeLille ( Baby Shayliah one month) Thank you May God Bless You, there nothing to hard for God They have a story to tell he even had to save three people from drowing while they on top of a roof waiting for save to came in help for the lower nine ward were they live.
  36. Diana Ambeau says:
    Dear Dr.Phil I live New Orleans my son and wife and month baby are survial of hurricane Katrina they were at the convention center for a week .I had no idea where he was .Until someone text message me and said they saw him on tv hold his daughter in his hand calling for so one to help because my grandaughter had no milk to drink. He even tried to walk a cross to the West Bank of the city were I live but the police stop them with guns and told them that they couldn't come a cross to my home were it was dry .Could you find and your heart to help them find a place to live so they can have new begining an Houston. .For a mother to hear child cry on the phone It was heart breaking. . His name is Terance and Shanell DeLille ( Baby Shayliah one month) Thank you May God Bless You, there nothing to hard for God They have a story to tell he even had to save three people from drowing while they on top of a roof waiting for save to came in help for the lower nine ward were they live.
  37. Diana Ambeau says:
    Dear Dr.Phil I live New Orleans my son and wife and month baby are survial of hurricane Katrina they were at the convention center for a week .I had no idea where he was .Until someone text message me and said they saw him on tv hold his daughter in his hand calling for so one to help because my grandaughter had no milk to drink. He even tried to walk a cross to the West Bank of the city were I live but the police stop them with guns and told them that they couldn't come a cross to my home were it was dry .Could you find and your heart to help them find a place to live so they can have new begining an Houston. .For a mother to hear child cry on the phone It was heart breaking. . His name is Terance and Shanell DeLille ( Baby Shayliah one month) Thank you May God Bless You, there nothing to hard for God They have a story to tell he even had to save three people from drowing while they on top of a roof waiting for save to came in help for the lower nine ward were they live.
  38. mike kummer says:
    would like to know what ican do to get some help for my daughter who is in a relationship that is not good at all he slaps her and spits on her and says nasty things to her she has alittle boy who is going to be 2 in dec i have done all i can to help get her away from him all she says is ilove him what can ido i am so scared she will lose the little one can you maybe help me and her
  39. Rose Allen says:
    I WOULD LIKE AN ADDRESS WHERE I CAN WRITE TO DR. PHIL. I WATCH HIS SHOWS AND I GO ON HIS WEB SITE BUT CAN NOT FIND A ADDRESS TO WRITE TO HIM. THANK YOU, ROSE ALLEN
  40. JUDY-GASKIN says:
    DR.PHIL-TRY TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION.I HAVE A NIECE AND A NEPHEW GRADUATING THE YEAR OF 2006 THEY LIVE IN DIFFERENT COUNTIES AND GO TO DIFFERENT SCHOOLS BUT THEY WILL BE GRADUTING THE SAME YEAR,HOW ARE WE SUPPOSE TO ATTEND BOTH GRADUTES?I AM MORE CLOSER TO MY NIECE THAN MY NEPHEW,BUT THE GRANDMAW IS WONDERING HOW TO ATTENED BOTH A VIDEO-CAMERA WAS SUGGESETED BUT THE OLDEST -DAUGHTER-IN-LAW DIDN'T MUCH LIKE THAT SHE SAID SHE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO OPERATE ONE AND WITH THIS BEING MY OLDEST NIECE GRADUATEING I WOULD LIKE TO SEE BOTH.THE NIECE WAS BORN FEB 2ND 1988,NEPHEW WAS BORN APRIL 24TH 1988,SO CAN YOU ANSWER THIS ONE-BECAUSE THE WHOLE ENTIRE FAMILIES WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO ATTENED BOTH TO-BE-GRADUATES CEREMOINES YOU KNOW HAVE PICTURES MADE WATCH BOTH BE IN THEIR CAP AND GOWNS IT'S A VERY SPECIAL DAY.I WATCH YOUR SHOW EVERYDAY TO SEE WHAT'S NEW SOME STUFF I LIKE AND SOME I DON'T BUT THAT'S LIFE AND I LIKE WATCHING YOUR SHOW YOUR WIFE ROBBIN(IF I HAVE MISSPELLED HER NAME I APOLOGIZE)IS A VERY PRTTY LADY, YOUR SONS ARE HANDSOME I WOULD SAY VERY HANDSOME BUT I AM A NEW MOM OF A 9 MONTH BABY BOY AND HE IS (VERY )HANDSOMENOW PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION?THANK YOU --MRS.JUDY M. GASKIN OF HOME ADDRESS-3841 HEARTHSTONE DRIVE,CHAPEL HILL,[email removed].I WOULD LIKE IT VERY MUCH TO BE IN YOUR AUDIENCE BUT I CAN'T AFFORD TO FLY BE MY LUCK I WOULD GET LOST.DO YOU THINK YOU COULD TO TENNESSEE (CHAPEL HILL IS IN MARSHALL COUNTY).PLEASE E-MAIL ME BACK AND LET ME KNOW YOUR ANSWER.PLEASE TELL THE DR.PHIL FAMILY HI!!HAVE A GREAT DAY.THANKS JUDY GASKIN.I DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM DOING WRONG BUT IT KEEPS ASKING ME TO POST SOME #'S.
  41. Bev.Kolenich says:
    MY SISTER IN FLORIDA HAS QUESTIONS FOR DR. PHIL,HOWEVER THIS DATE HER EMAILS WOULD NOT GO THROUGH, IF YOU COULD GET ME THE EMAIL FOR DR.PHIL AND HIS MAILING ADDRESS I WILL FORWARD IT TO HER THANKS A BUNCH
  42. SiLLyMoMmA says:
    thank you
  43. sally wilcox says:
    i watch dr.phil everyday i think his shows are great also i like when his wife robin gets to talk on the show with him. i hope that i will win the book of family first. i know that it will help me out alot. dr.phil you are the best. please write to me my email is [email removed] god bless you all
  44. Janice DeWeese says:
    I have a 11 years old Nephew,and he has Ad-Hd,Bi-polar,mental retardation problems.and he went to school one day &he tried to strangle a kid,&knock down a Teacher,Principle & a policeman.and now he is in the hopital were tring to help him and I want to know more to help him
  45. hanna reese says:
    My daughter is a single mother of a five year old. He was born when she was 17 and now she is graduating from the university in May. The father was a brief encounter and did not want her to have the baby. We all have stayed in close contact with his father's mother- she lives out of state. The father has never seen him and has given no support. He is a drug addict (I belief a bi-polar who medicates himself). He has called at times and written e-mails expressing his desire to see his son but has never managed to get it together. We are visiting family in California March 4th,5th and 6th for a family celebration (Bar Mitzvah). He wants to come and meet him (he lives in California). We want to do the right thing for her son. He was four and ahalf when she heard him tell another child, "I don't have a Dad, but I have a mom, grandma, grandpa, uncle and aunts". She told him, "you do have a dad but he lives in another state." He has not brought up the subject since. She has made an appointment with a child physcologist for objective imput as to how to best prepare him for this meeting. Everyone has their subjective advise! We have always kept a warm door open to him. Not knowing if he will make it, should we wait till he is actually at the hotel. Should he be introduced as his father...as he may not see him again....Any imput would be greatly appreciated. We don't want to make a mistake with his life.
  46. ELSIE says:
    TO DR. PHIL, I HAVE WATCHED YOUR RISE ON TV AND I AM INSPIRED BY YOU. I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY EX. WE HAVE SEPERATED AND DOES NOT EVER WANT TO TALK TO ME IN PERSON OR ON THE PHONE. I BROKE UP WITH HIM IN SEPT. 2004 BECAUSE HE WAS NOT GIVING ME RESPECT OR THE COMMITMENT I NEEDED. I ALSO HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO IS 9 AND SHE HAS BONDED WITH HIM SINCE SHE WAS 3. HE TREATS HER LIKE GOLD BUT WHEN WE ARE NOT SPEAKING HE SHUNS HER OUT TOO!MY DAUGHTER'S FATHER DIED WHEN I WAS PREGNANT AND I THOUGHT I FOUND THIS GREAT GUY FOR BOTH OF US. I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY HE DOES THIS AND SHUTS THE DOOR ON ALL OF US. HIS FRIEND WHO IS A LAWYER AND MY EX ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO FIND WAYS TO BRING ME TO COURT. I AM TRYING TO HAVE A LIFE BUT I FEEL TRAPPED IN A NEVERENDING DRAMA THAT AFFECTS MY CHILDREN . NEED HELP
  47. Dolores Standard says:
    I would like to have you consider our daughter and her husband and their 4 children for your Phenomenal Family Award. Fred and Marcella have been married for 26 years. Aaron is 23 and finished college in May. Kyle is 21 and will finish college in May,2005; Kari is 19 and a freshman in college; Chris is 16. They are very thoughtful and great kids. Fred is a minister and Marcella was a stay at home mom untill Aaron went to college. She did day care so she could be at home and also help at the school. There family has been first. When the kids were younger dad or mon would take one child out to lunch each week to be able to listen and talk to them. Chris has had problems learning and they have been his advocate at school and have spent many hours at home working with him. I am so proud of Fred and Marcell as parents and their children.
  48. angelyn says:
    i would like to tell you about my mom Kris Feld first of all she adopted a family of 6 and has been raising them for the past 10 years with no help from any outside source. she lost my father in april of this year and is doing her best to keep all the values that they taught us over the years the numbr one piority. I myself have 2 kids and rather than kick me out on my butt like so many parents do she has allowed myself and my 2 kids to stay with her and she does all she can for them as well. other than her and my siblings i am a single parent. My mom is my role model and my strength through this struggle. She unselfishly gives up everything so thsat all of us can have what we want and need. her and my dad saved my whole life to buy a suburban pickup when they finally got one he passed away and she had to give it back because she couldnt keep that and let us all stay in a life style that they have provided us with our intire lives. she is the best for so many reasons she helps friends when they need it she took in all these kids, and she is their for her grandchildren as if they were her own. over the years she has become my best friend,mentoir,and guide as well as keeping her role of mom. So Dr.Phil with what you consider "family first" she has truly put that her top priority my whole life.she is the glue that keeps us all together.
  49. angelyn says:
    i would like to tell you about my mom first of all she adopted a family of 6 and has been raising them for the past 10 years with no help from any outside source. she lost my father in april of this year and is doing her best to keep all the values that they taught us over the years the numbr one piority. I myself have 2 kids and rather than kick me out on my butt like so many parents do she has allowed myself and my 2 kids to stay with her and she does all she can for them as well. other than her and my siblings i am a single parent. My mom is my role model and my strength through this struggle. She unselfishly gives up everything so thsat all of us can have what we want and need. her and my dad saved my whole life to buy a suburban pickup when they finally got one he passed away and she had to give it back because she couldnt keep that and let us all stay in a life style that they have provided us with our intire lives. she is the best for so many reasons she helps friends when they need it she took in all these kids, and she is their for her grandchildren as if they were her own. over the years she has become my best friend,mentoir,and guide as well as keeping her role of mom. So Dr.Phil with what you consider "family first" she has truly put that her top priority my whole life.she is the glue that keeps us all together.
  50. Dolores Gaudard says:
    I would like to nominate Donna and Jimmy Goyette for the phenomenal family. They have been married almost 15 years and have four children: Grant 10, Jack 8, Jillian 6 and Cassidy 4. Grant has autism and since he was three, they have taken him to a Speech Pathologist for Autism in East Lansing, MI, an hour away twice a week. The teacher has done wonders with Grant. It's amazing how much progress he has made. About a year ago, Donna, Jimmy and Grant (and probably the rest of the family) are intolerate of gluten. This has made meal planning a challenge. Whether it is helping the children brush their teeth, reading bedtime stories or packing lunches for the next day, etc., Donna and Jimmy do it together. They have individual date nights for the children to do whatever they want. Donna and Jimmy feel so blessed that Grant and all the children were given to them. They will do everything in their power to see that each and every one of their children have every opportunity to have a useful life. Each child has a special place in the family and they all are treated special. They have been a phenomenal family since their first child was born.
  51. Betty Ludman says:
    dear Dr. Phil My Name is Betty Ludman i am 34 Years old From Canada Ontario. i Love Your T.V Show I Love The Way You Done Your House For Christmas. it's Very Lovely. I Wish you Done Something to My Home. But i Live in the Apt's, i hope you and your Family have Very Merry Christimas and Very happy New year. Can you say Hi to your very handsome Boys For me. They Look Very Handsome BOYs [email removed] please E-Mail be back soon,, bye bye god bless you.
  52. Donnie Foster says:
    Dr.Phil I would like to add to your Phenominal Family a brother of mine,you see there are 13 of us DONNIE FOSTER did not have very easy as most of didn,t,but that wasn,t the most important he was loved by his mother like all of us and was brought up in a good christan home.He went in service and served some his time and went he got out he became a phenominal father for a little girl of his raised her until he met this wonderful woman Barbara.He then had T.B.he then had to go in a place for cure and had to leave his little girl and Barbara for a year.After he came home he and his wife over the years had a three boys, One died shortly after he was born. They still raised the dau.Donna and Bryan and Graig the boys.Donnie is a very loving humble,meek quiet person.He has raised his children to work hard forwhat they recieve in life.I have never heard his children be disobient They are well mannerd and treat people with respe .Will now we just found out he has cancer ct.We lost are wonderful mother 1998 she loved to spend time with him and his family. She would tell me how loving and close they were and it meant so much her.We recieved a call Tuesday Before Thanksgiving That he Now has cancer of the pancreas.Tuesday after Thanksgiving they done his surgery.They couldn,t could much to help him .Before his surgery He flew to Florida to see his nine brothers and sisters because all of us could not go see him.he felt so bad and was so jaundess,he also called the three other ones out off state.You see he doesn,t have much lognger to live .He went home to spend Xmas with his family and told the DR, he would talk to them in Jan.The cancer is in his limpnodes ans blood vessels already.I woul Love to give him and his family something soecial as he has us . He doesn,t want to talk about the cancer right now but he said he was at peace with himself and God.We talked before the surgery.I know he is said But he talks like he is so upbeat everytime I talk to him. His Loving Sister: Leda Sistrunk Plant City FLORIDA [email removed] 12/12004
  53. BARBARA LANSING says:
    Dear Dr. Phil, You are looking for the most PHENOMINAL family in America, well, look no farther. I have the name of that family right here: Jill and Curtis Hahn, my daughter and son-in-law. They are the happiest family that I know. They have two small children, Alexander and Julianna, who are always happy and make others around them happy as well. Alexander is a little over two and knows his alphabet, colors, numbers, and shapes and plays very well with others. He has imagination and energy and is always happy. Julianna is 4 months old and is always smiling. Each parent spends daily quality time with each child and also reads a three-book bedtime story nightly. This family is always doing things together such as cutting down their Christmas Tree, walking in the park, going to the zoo, swimming in the lake, going camping, baking cookies, playing games, going to church, traveling, and many other exciting activities. I have never heard Curtis say, "Daddy is too tired", "Wait until half-time", or "After Daddy reads the paper." I don't think that these words are in his vocabulary when it comes to the wants and needs of his wife or family. It doesn't matter if it is to read a story, play on the floor with a train set, change a diaper, or go outside and "shoot some hoop", this family can ALWAYS depend on their mother and father. With as full a life as they have as a family, Curtis still invites Jill out for a date night about once a week, although sometimes they invite the children, as Jill is still nursing Julianna. Their home is always open to family and friends with Curtis' and Jill's siblings often visiting and staying with them for weeks at a time when necessary. Foreign friends from Germany, Switzerland and Australia (former Exchange Student Siblings) love to visit and feel right at home in this home. The aroma of homemade cookies permeates the air on a regular basis and the cookie jar is nearly always full. Jill and Curtis are both wonderful cooks and many a huge family meal was enjoyed at their home. No matter if you are the only guest or if there are 25 guests, each person is treated as the special guest when they are there. Jill is always taking dinner out to sick friends or someone who has just had a baby. Alexander is disciplined quietly with a time our or removal of a privilege and knows that certain things such as television and videos are earned privileges. He is polite and kind and a wonderful child. For these reasons and so many more that you can see for yourself if you were to meet the, I reiterate that this family is America's most Phenominal family. Sincerely, Barbara Lansing
  54. Polly Taylor says:
    I would like to nominate Dave and Kara Cole for the "Phenomenal Family" They have been married for six years after going together for five years. They have been on a year long 'round the world trip together as they wanted to travel before they settled down. They met in Garmisch, Germany while traveling in Europe after graduating from college. They are both teachers. Kara was selected as "teacher of the year" her first year teaching (in LA County). They taught in Kuwait for for two years and went back for a third year with their 3month old daughter, Isabel. After arriving in Kuwait in August they wated the 911 attacks on TV. They decided to come hom because of the tension in Kuwait. Dave now teaches middle school (at his request) on Cape Cod. Kara is a stay at home mom. Isabel is now almost four and Abigail will be two in April. Dave's students gave him a baby shower when he went on "paternity leave" which his school system offers. They coordinate their schedules so that Kara can teach tennis,sell Pampered Chef, have Usborn Book parties and sell educational toys while Dave is at home with the girls. Both girls have learned to swim as they live near the water. They are the closest relatives to visit Kara's grandparents who are in a nearby nursing home. The girls go with her to vist their greatgrands. The now have an exchange student from Iraq as they are familiar with middle eastern culture. Kara has already been asked to be a regional coordinator for the program and will go to California for the training in January. Dave is a tri-athlete and takes one or both girls with him in a carriage when he runs. He is also a certified massage therapist. They are quite an incredible (phenomenal) family
  55. Marcy Ronk says:
    I'd like to nominate a phenominal family. Brandon and Marti Thomas and two boys, Shane and Cole. I think they are a phenominal family because their world is those two little boys. They are starting wonderful traditions with the boys and still including grandparents. I love watching them and seeing how happy and content they all seem to be.
  56. jack b. muir says:
    Dear Dr. Phil, Where did you have your head when you chose that first young couple as candidates for your �phenomenal family� award? You may need a proctologist to help you get your head back where it belongs. If I heard the young woman correctly, she said they have been married for one year. What kind of time frame is that in which to become �phenomenal� as a family? Even if it�s two or years (the age of their older child, I believe), it�s still too early to declare them a �phenomenal family.� My second beef is the presentation of Clint and Lisa Hartman Black in the category. After these folks made their millions, they then (and only then) had their family. I can visualize no more than a handful of your audience being able to relate to them as family role models. I must admit that I�m biased. My wife and I have been married for more than 60 years. We raised four children through poverty conditions that at least rival those you identified as part of your background. Like so many things, a claim to success requires some seasoning and hardship before it can be legitimized You need a reality check about this new gimmick. Please don�t misunderstand. I fully approve of the concept. But you need some new criteria for your selections. Get your head out, Phil. Cordially, Jack B. Muir 2201 SE 4th Street Cape Coral, FL 3399[phone number removed]
  57. Pat Lux-Schuermann says:
    I would like to nominate the Jim Woodson family for the Phenomenal Family award. Theirlives suround their two children and it shows in every aspect. Jim and Lisa were maried 16 years ago and gave up a big wedding to save money and were married in a little chapel in Arkansas with no family present. Even their 2 day homeymoon was not what they expected as they were going to buy a bottle of champagne and found out they were in a dry county. I'm sure they struggles financially the first few years but no one knew it. Jim started a 2 year apprenticeship for painting and papering and Lisa worked as well. Theuy bought a very small one room cabin so their money would not go out just for rent. Christmas was special as this young married couple would bake hundreds of cookies and share them as gifts with family, friends, neighbors and co-workers and their list grew every year. A few years later they found that they were expecting their first baby and Jim began to enlarge their little cabin to make room for Kaitlin who was born in April. With a toddler -a great dane, and two ferrets they decided to start looking for a bigger home and moved into the house they are living in now. Shortly after moving in found out their family would soon get bigger and Connor was born in Jan. Lisa was a stay at home mom and Jim excelled at his work getting extra jobs to help out, but their kids always came first. Lisa became very involved in school activities and Jim started coaching both kids soccer teams. Lisa would take part time evening jobs so she could always be at home when the kids were there. After both kids were in school Lisa started working at the school be be able to have the same hours and again be with them. She also was involved in PTA, Girl Scouts, Cubs. Also music lessons for Kaitlin. Jim took a course in Ziplining for the girl scouts so he could assist them in this project. They still call him to help with that. He also coached Little League. A family member needed help and they took in a niece and made room for her in their home. So that meant getting 3 kids ready for school, practices, games, school activities etc. and no complaints from them. Kaitlin is 12 and Connor is 9 and Lisa is now working at a job close to home. They keep in close touch with the families in school, soccer and volleyball and know who their kids friends are. The kids are honor students and they are a joy to be with. The few vacations they have taken are always with the kids. I feel this couple/family should receive the Phenomenal Family award. Thank you Dr. Phil
  58. MaryAnn Tschetter says:
    I would like to nominate Ranea Vanterpool and her children Isha,Nyah,and Omali as the most phenominal family. Her ex left when the children were just small and she has worked 2 and sometimes 3 jobs to make ends meet. He has never paid childsupport. Recently she graduated with high honors as a nurse. She has done without so her children could have clothes and food. All 3 of her children are on the honor roll and she has implanted in them highest spiritual and moral values. They are all leaders in their field. She has remarried but was single through most of the childrens lives. Isha is now in her first year of college, Nyah is a sophomore and Omali is a freshman.They are a wonderful family.

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